In this article I wanted to talk to you about the reality of past life soulmates, how to recognize those connections, and what they practically mean for us.
You may have experienced that mysterious connection, one that made you wonder: are we past life soulmates? Are we twin flames? One that seemed to shatter everything you believed in and held secure.
Even if you didn’t believe in past lives before, encountering this particular person felt like it stirred your deepest memories of love and fulfillment.
The warm, gentle, loving places in your heart that you didn’t know existed, came to life.
Is it possible to meet past life soulmates? And if so, are we meant to be together in this lifetime, as well?
That’s what we’re here to find out!
Exploring Past Incarnations
When I first connected with a few of my previous incarnations, I was surprised by how distinct each personality was.
Each one of them was a different person, with their own lives — and deaths. And yet, they looked onto the world with the eyes of a soul that I recognized. A soul that is me.
I might see myself in a different way, with a physical body. I have my own emotions, I experience happiness and sadness. I have plans, ideas, and feelings. But the eyes of a soul are timeless, dispassionate and yet ever-curious. The soul wants to learn and experience everything before it returns to the Divine oneness.
We can look at our past incarnations as dormant seeds of experience, which are still planted in our subconscious. The more evolved we become as a soul, the more such seeds we carry.
In the course of our many lifetimes, we also scatter the fragments of our soul through violent death, severe trauma or near-death experience. This is called “soul loss” in many traditions. Our ancestors remedied such soul loss through the practice of soul retrieval.
When Past Life Memories Become Activated
Now imagine you meet someone who murdered you in a past life. Or someone whom you murdered!
Your soul fragments are bound to each other, seeking to return to their respective owners. Nothing is ever lost in this universe, and so you seek each other out, being pulled to the person who holds a fragment of your soul. The pull is irresistible, because nothing is more important in the universe than for the energy to return to its source.
In addition, old cocoons of past life selves to open and become activated, integrating into your own inner voice.
This can occur when the paths of our current and past selves meet in a specific place, especially if it is a power place. Power places are spots where it is easier to reach higher levels of awareness. Just by being in these locations, one might experience spiritual insights and awakenings more effortlessly.
It may now be easier to understand the confusion of a soul relationship. Now, you are influenced by the energy pull of your soul fragments seeking restoration and healing AND by your past life selves who still want happiness on their own terms. With the person who, in this lifetime, is rarely suitable or compatible!
Recognizing Past Life Lovers in This Lifetime
Meeting an important soul connection awakens subconscious memories of our past incarnations together. This awakening can be quite rough if there were unresolved issues (karma) between us in a past life. We will get flooded with feelings and emotions that belonged to our past selves.
Guilt, betrayal, longing, passion, joy — whatever tone your relationship had, whatever you chose to carry over through lifetimes — will all come into the light.
But past life memories of romantic feelings often harm us more than memories of discord and anger. What may have been a great love story in a past life, does not necessarily serve us in this lifetime.
Our past incarnations were completely different persons. They had their own set of life lessons and karma to work through. They were connected to specific ancestral lines to work with, and born into a particular culture. They spoke another language, had a different genetic makeup, which may have been an important factor determining choice of a life partner, and their beliefs and emotions were very different from ours.
What Makes us Desperately Cling to a Past Life Connection?
It may be that in this lifetime we met someone who was once very special to our soul. Our past self awakens. Its memories fill us with passion and excitement. This past life self is longing to repeat and re-live a lost love. A love that may have been truly divine — back then.
The problem is that all the emotions, hopes and desires we are now feeling belong to a different person.
That person is not our enemy, and can even be our magical ally — but typically we don’t have a slightest idea this past life influence is even possible! Our past life self does not realize that in this lifetime their soulmate may have a completely different path. And we interpret its voice in our subconscious as our own.
When something like this happens, and people start looking for answers, they often find internet articles on twin flames and soulmates. These articles speak of eternal love, divine connection, and twin flames destined to be together forever.
Of course, this resonates immensely given all the past life memories. But the personalities are different now. Just because you feel you can’t live without them, doesn’t mean you are destined to be together forever.
Many difficult and complicated “twin flame” situations arise from a mismatch between one’s current path and soul-level memories.
Transforming Past Life Wounding
Most likely, the “glue” that brought you and your past life lover together is an unresolved issue that you need to heal. It may be an issue between you, such as a wound of betrayal or abandonment.
In this case, past life healing is an appropriate path to go.
Or it may be a pattern your soul is seeking to transform, such as victimization of the feminine — and they are the best person who can help.
Having a relationship with a person who can trigger your very soul is the greatest gift the Universe can give you.
Having someone in our lives who questions our daily habits, beliefs, ideas, our understanding of love, every idealized image we’ve built of ourselves and the world — is a wonderful gift. Being with such a person is a unique opportunity to discard old constructs and evolve spiritually.
But it is not easy.
We need a high level of spiritual maturity and relentless dedication. We need to do the work on ourselves. Not for them — for us. When we begin to heal, we become joyful, happy, connected. No matter what. Nothing that happens in the outside world will be able to take our joy away.
But we need to learn to control the voices of our subconscious. This also means becoming the “boss” of our past selves, rather than letting them control us. We can learn to get to know our past incarnations, to integrate their strengths, and to reduce their influence if it does not serve us.
Or, we can begin working directly on templates that no longer serve us, and begin to transform them.
Realigning with Your Soul’s Path
Our past incarnations are parts of us who can teach us valuable knowledge and experience. But they are also very human and imperfect parts of us. Our aim is to understand all these voices, connect with them, and transcend their noise, aligning with our Higher Self.
Past life soulmates usually come into our lives when we are ready to heal. When we are ready to stop spinning the same wheel over and over and finally take responsibility for our lives.
It may mean improving your relationship. We can work with the Akashic Records to strengthen the twin flame connection.
Or it may mean moving on and closing this chapter. Maybe you have been waiting to do so for lifetimes. Sometimes, healing means facing the truth about our romantic ideals and letting go of our past life soulmates. Sometimes, it means fighting for them.
