Blessing and cursing — what does it really mean? Someone asked me this question not so long ago, and I thought, wow, that's an interesting one!
We all come with a set of assumptions that help us understand words and concepts.
If I tell you, for example, that I like mushrooms, some of you may visualize white supermarket champignons, some of you, including myself, will think of chanterelles in cream sauce — and some of you will think of psilocybin. This is just how our brain works, making connections with something we already know.
And so when I speak of blessing, all kinds of emotions and images may emerge for you. A blessing in a church, your grandmother blessing you, a blessing over food and water, feeling blessed, blessing others...
What is blessing? What does it mean, to bless someone or something?
I believe, in the simplest terms, a blessing carries the intention of connecting the recipient to life force energy. To God, to all goodness, to joy, to love, to the effortless path, to spiritual fulfillment. A blessing is almost like channeling the quality of the Divine. When someone blesses you, they send you a loving intention, a desire to connect you to the highest possible expression of your soul. Blessing food and water connects them to that same life force, to Divine Light.
There is more to it, though. Much research has been done on the qualities of blessed food and water. It was found that blessed water helps the plants grow faster and blessed food improves the mood of those who eat it. Another curious experiment had a person with no training or interest in energy work and spirituality measure against an experienced healer in blessing plant seeds. And guess what! The "newbie's" blessings proved to be more powerful!
And what about cursing?
By now, you probably have an idea of what cursing can imply. Again, the word curse can mean different things to different people. Some may visualize an evil witch with voodoo dolls and potions, some would think of an ancestral curse or cursed land, or something out of horror movies.
Ancestral curses, in my experience, are often manifest as habits and templates of beliefs and behavior that are inherited across generations. A single mother running away from an abusive husband generation after generation, girls being sexually abused, or men drinking themselves to death.
Ancestral curses are not supernatural, they are as natural as it gets, rooted in the science of epigenetics and modern energy psychology. Our ancestors knew how to work with these dysfunctional templates and bring healing to the whole family tree. I also do this work in my harmonic reconnection sessions.
Is there such a thing as a curse, though? Of course there is! And it doesn't have to be something complex and ritualized for it to work. You can curse someone when you have been unjustly wronged. If your cause is just and your energy is strong enough, your intention will be counted as curse.
If your cause is not just? You get your intention boomeranged right back at you. That's why we have all those chronically angry people. They end up living in a forcefield of curses, unable to get out.
We all have the power to affect the energy around us. We send blessings, we get blessings back. We send curses, we get curses back. Everything in nature is made to be fruitful and multiply — and so is our energy.
We get a hundredfold of what we give
I encourage you to bless your food, bless your water, bless your house and your land, bless the food of your pets very morning, bless the stray cats — bless whatever you like.
There is a very old gentleman living down the road from me, who goes out to warm up in the sun in front of his house every now and then. He always greets me with "God bless you". I can't imagine a better greeting than that.
Also think of your power to curse and bind. Very often, we don't notice how much we curse and choke ourselves. All the "I am useless," "I am such an idiot!" "I am so lazy," "I'm a loser!" are ways in which we curse ourselves.
These curses don't just affect our thinking — they affect our cellular structure, our biology, our nervous system, the fluids in our body, including our blood. Our self-cursing affects our bones and muscles and the very structure of our brain. Why? Because we consist of the same matter and are designed according to the same principles as plants, food and water that we bless (or curse).
Sometimes, we need deeper healing work to reverse our miraculous gift for self-cursing. But watching our language and reactions can begin right here right now. Let's begin to bless ourselves and the world around us!
