Twin flame separation is probably the most painful experience one will come across on a spiritual journey. It is the proverbial dark night of the soul, made more painful by the fact that we experience separation from someone our soul recognizes as “the One”.
Twin flame separation activates our pain body, initiating a descent into deep dark basements of pain we have been unwilling to face for lifetimes. But none of this pain is meant to last.
Are Twin Flames Even Real?
The very concept of twin flames has become so fraught with projections and delusions that it has almost become a byword. Even by saying “twin flame reading” we conjure an image of an unscrupulous psychic who promises a twin soul to their client — because the ego wants nothing less than a twin flame. A soulmate is not enough anymore.
Many long to meet their twin flame because they have an idea of someone who will fulfill their romantic fantasies. Others dream of completing the cycle of incarnations and finally ascending and/or becoming enlightened. They heard meeting a twin flame is absolutely essential for enlightenment, and therefore they must get one ASAP.
This is all but a reflection of consumerism projected onto so-called spirituality. And yet, soul connections and twin flames are real. Genuine twin flames shake up your universe, bring about the dissolution of ego structure, and plunge you into the abyss — in order to take you to the heights you never knew were possible.
Twin Flame Separation as a Healing Tool
I would invite you to not get attached to labels and outcomes. Rather, see the twin flame path as one of many paths to realizing Oneness at our deepest core.
What really happens when you meet a strong soul connection who becomes a catalyst for your spiritual awakening?
Pain and all the apparent destruction are but a tool to bring about deep and lasting healing. Twin flame separation is painful only because it triggers our blocks and projections.
Part of the problem is that we are trying to put a very high-level connection into old — and very dysfunctional! — paradigms of “relationships”. These are the very paradigms that we actually came to heal and transform in this incarnation. They will not work no matter how hard we try.
The Path to Self-Realization
In my experience, meeting a twin flame is the beginning of the path to self-realization. It has the added aspect of healing and transforming our false conditioning regarding relationships and romance, but in essence leads to the same place as many other spiritual paths — the abiding bliss and joy of being One with All That Is. The pain of twin flame separation is literally living out in our bodies the separation from Source that is the cause of suffering — our own, and the world around us.
Many twin flames have chosen to incarnate in difficult places, families and circumstances, carrying a lot of wounding and heavy energies. The soul chose these circumstances to heal and transform them, but on the physical plane most of us get stuck and disoriented in dark and heavy energies.
When a twin flame or a strong soul connection comes into our life, and spiritual activation begins, all of us, light and dark, begins to wake up and come to the surface. And the pain that we didn’t want to deal with blinds us to the true nature of the process.
But the twin flame path is not just about pain, never-ending healing, and eternal struggle.
Ultimately, this path is about finding abiding joy. Joy that exists no matter what, no matter where or how you are, joy that arises from connecting to the Source within you.
