Twin flame healing is a journey of a lifetime. A twin flame relationship often begins in a cloud of bliss, awakening and oneness. We are awake, aware, more alive than we ever thought we could be. And suddenly our Beloved casts us our of Paradise.
Our pain bodies activate and old wounds come to the surface. We face the pain of the Universe, and all we can think about is how to reunite with the love of our life. The process of purification begins. It seems that this acute pain of separation will never come to an end. We think that if only we could be together again, the pain would stop. We just want to go back to the place where all was well.
Twin flame healing is a journey of returning to oneness
But going back to what was is not the twin flame path. And while purification is part of the twin flame journey, it is by no means the end of it. Twin flame healing is a journey of returning to oneness. It is not the path of pain and despair. It is a universal path of healing and purification that many spiritual traditions speak about. As such, it is not centered on a relationship — but rather on the inner longing that the relationship brings up.
In this article, I list some of the signs of healing for awakened twin flames.
1 – Inner Peace
Twin flame healing brings inner peace. Intrusive thoughts about your twin decrease in frequency and eventually disappear. They are replaced by inner peace.
Once our egoic resistance breaks down and we reach higher levels of consciousness, we find that elusive inner peace. This peace is not conditional on our outward circumstances, or on what is happening in the physical world. Rather, it is rooted in the bigger picture, which we are now able to see more clearly.
Finding inner peace doesn’t mean that we are going to be blissed out 100% of the time, never raise our voice or feel scared. Rather, it means we accept the reality of the situation at hand. We accept life as it is. Life is never 100% peaceful, blissed out and “perfect.” That is not the point of life. But we are at peace with what is, because we don’t try to impose the demands of our wounded ego on the reality around us.
We are at peace with what is, because we don’t try to impose the demands of our wounded ego on the reality around us
Inner peace is both a gift and a call to engage more deeply with our mission on this planet. From a place of inner peace, we can help others heal and find their mission.
2 – The Need to Know Disappears
Your need to know when and where the reunion will happen goes away. You are no longer interested in what your twin flame is doing. No longer trying to influence their healing process. You are no longer asking psychics and intuitives about your twin, what kind of healing work they need to do or why they haven’t awakened yet. You now accept that everyone has their own path.
This is a very liberating place, where you can finally focus on your own healing. You can finally see how much you were projecting outward. All that love was within you all along — just as all that messiness and resistance and running away was a part of you.
At this stage, you start seeing that this compulsive need for knowing when and how and why was only a way to escape the pain. It was necessary at the time, but now you can connect with your own heart and build your own life. Your twin flame will never give you what you cannot give to yourself.
Our twin flame will never give us what we cannot give to ourselves
3 – Forgiveness and Compassion
At this stage of twin flame healing, fear and resentment transform into forgiveness and compassion, understanding and acceptance. This compassion is directed first and foremost towards the self, then towards the Twin, as well as anything or anyone we perceive as Other.
Forgiveness and compassion increase as self-love increases. When we hated ourselves we couldn’t live for our own sake, we didn’t have the motivation to take care of our spiritual needs. We needed the twin flame to come and rescue us. Now we stop playing the blame game and accept full responsibility for our lives, including our mistakes.
We begin seeing those who hurt us as an expression of unhealed parts of ourselves. We recognize that we cannot change them, and turn our compassion towards ourselves — our wounded inner child, our overactive inner protector. All the parts that reflect our disconnect from the Divine within.
Once we learn to embrace ourselves just the way we are, we shift from blaming and judging others into love. True love that comes from a place of power.
4 – A Journey Into Oneness
With greater sense of acceptance and compassion towards the self, our ego self begins dissolving into the Divine. We are now able to perceive ourselves as a part of the whole. The excruciating pain of separation gradually gives way to a sense of inter-connectedness with all life.
With this also comes the ability to not tie your self-worth to what your twin does, or does not do. If they are being self-destructive or abusive, it is not because of you.
No longer a sliver in a hostile environment, you are now able to establish meaningful connections with people. More than this, you begin to see that this is somehow all One — ourselves, the Divine, the Twin and the Others. It is as if you are able to glimpse the Unity of all existence more and more often, gradually releasing self-identification with the pain of separation.
5 – Letting Go
As we heal, we begin recognizing that we cannot ever lose our twin. We are no longer clinging or grasping to our version of events. Rather, we allow, accepting the NOW. Letting go is not the same as indifference, resignation or avoidance.
Letting go is one of the most difficult things to do on the spiritual path. Letting go means surrender to the Divine, to our Higher Self, to the Universe. Only through that surrender are we able to experience real power.
Letting go means refusing to let our ego take control. Instead, we surrender the ego — which often feels like dying — and gradually open up to a higher perspective. To our astonishment, instead of dying, we find boundless joy and inner peace.
6 – An Established Spiritual Practice
As our social conditioning and self-identification with our wounds begin to dissolve, we are often left without anything to hold on to. This is true of all paths to awakening, including the twin flame journey.
The religion that we may have identified with suddenly loses its meaning. Our moral foundations and beliefs dissolve in the fiery transformation that twin flame healing brings with it. It can take many years to rebuild ourselves and find a new sense of purpose. This purpose would be grounded in reality rather than social conditioning.
It may take years and support of many teachers to establish, or re-establish, a spiritual practice that would serve to support us on the path. Whichever form our practice takes, we need to be watchful that we do not set one form above any other. Our practice is a discipline, but it is not set in stone, and may continuously transform as we progress.
7 – Capacity to Bear Paradox
Twin flame healing journey is a path of paradox, of uniting opposites
In very basic terms, a paradox means union of the seemingly opposite statements. Both this is true and its exact opposite is true. Makes perfect sense for twin flame healing, doesn’t it?
A paradox points us to the reality higher than either of the opposing statements. In spiritual terms, the capacity to bear paradox begins with an understanding that your path is not the only one, and your understanding of the world is not the ultimate reality. You are just one piece in the big puzzle of life.
Twin flame healing journey is a path of uniting opposites. It teaches us that the little I, our ego self, is just a veil hiding true reality. And that reality is Union. In that reality, “I” does not exist.
At the same time we are constantly made aware that everything we see, everything that happens, is a projection of this “I”, of our beliefs, ideas, our wounds that we seek to heal. The “I” is both the veil and the manifestation of reality.
As we become more comfortable with paradox, we also progress spiritually, elevating our consciousness.
Twin flame healing path is not a path of destruction, pain and suffering. Healing in a twin flame connection is in relation to our whole being, mind, body and soul. It is healing between ourselves and the Divine, healing between parts of ourselves, our subpersonalities, in the past, present and future.
This is why every twin flame connection is a gateway into Divine Union, which is so much more than just a perfect “relationship” we often imagine when we first meet our Twin. Ultimately, the connection calls us into a holistic state of oneness with all that is.
